Happier Perspectives

Perspective --> Thoughts --> Emotions --> Behaviors --> Outcomes

"I’ve learned about passion - not just to be excited about something, but to be completely dedicated, always curious, and truly connected to the cooking. I’ve learned about warmth…She has taught me about heart and how there is a place for the personal in cooking, for emotion in cooking. Without this heart, and this emotion, and this soul, I would still be riding the perfection wave, and only be about technique and mechanics. A brilliant dining experience needs more from a chef than textbook execution…I’ve never been so proud to have someone so proud of me.”

Kirsten Kish - Top Chef Winner 

I am searching for the sense of purpose that Kristen has :].

"Roy Baumeister writes about happiness as something that gets in the way of a meaningful life. Happiness is about decreasing stress and conflict and taking rather than giving. In a forthcoming paper about the difference between a happy life and a meaningful life, the authors write, ‘Happiness without meaning characterizes a relatively shallow, self-absorbed or even selfish life, in which things go well, needs and desires are easily satisfied, and difficult or taxing entanglements are avoided.’”
The Pursuit of Happiness Makes Life Shallow
Penelope Trunk

"Roy Baumeister writes about happiness as something that gets in the way of a meaningful life. Happiness is about decreasing stress and conflict and taking rather than giving. In a forthcoming paper about the difference between a happy life and a meaningful life, the authors write, ‘Happiness without meaning characterizes a relatively shallow, self-absorbed or even selfish life, in which things go well, needs and desires are easily satisfied, and difficult or taxing entanglements are avoided.’”

The Pursuit of Happiness Makes Life Shallow

Penelope Trunk

"Actions spoke louder than words. When the adult behaved selfishly, children followed suit. The words didn’t make much difference — children gave fewer tokens after observing the adult’s selfish actions, regardless of whether the adult verbally advocated selfishness or generosity. When the adult acted generously, students gave the same amount whether generosity was preached or not — they donated 85 percent more than the norm in both cases. When the adult preached selfishness, even after the adult acted generously, the students still gave 49 percent more than the norm. Children learn generosity not by listening to what their role models say, but by observing what they do."
Raising a Moral Child 
Adam Grant

"Actions spoke louder than words. When the adult behaved selfishly, children followed suit. The words didn’t make much difference — children gave fewer tokens after observing the adult’s selfish actions, regardless of whether the adult verbally advocated selfishness or generosity. When the adult acted generously, students gave the same amount whether generosity was preached or not — they donated 85 percent more than the norm in both cases. When the adult preached selfishness, even after the adult acted generously, the students still gave 49 percent more than the norm. Children learn generosity not by listening to what their role models say, but by observing what they do."

Raising a Moral Child

Adam Grant

Wonder and awe :]

Wonder and awe :]

Pharrell exhibiting wholeheartedness on Oprah :].

William Fitzsimmons - Good Morning

"Ernest Greene, 50 years Collin’s senior, had never met Collin, but he attended the same church. And when he heard about Collin’s accident, he decided he wanted to help. He offered to do whatever Collin needed, from taking him to school to helping him shave. And when Collin began college, Ernest went too…’I don’t think I’ve been any more shocked in my life,’ Ernest says. ‘I didn’t think I had done anything more than any other person ought to do.’"
Read More Here: http://www.npr.org/2014/04/11/301574558/one-man-becomes-anothers-hands-feet-and-family

"Ernest Greene, 50 years Collin’s senior, had never met Collin, but he attended the same church. And when he heard about Collin’s accident, he decided he wanted to help. He offered to do whatever Collin needed, from taking him to school to helping him shave. And when Collin began college, Ernest went too…’I don’t think I’ve been any more shocked in my life,’ Ernest says. ‘I didn’t think I had done anything more than any other person ought to do.’"

Read More Here: http://www.npr.org/2014/04/11/301574558/one-man-becomes-anothers-hands-feet-and-family

"For me, this is a minor epiphany. The phrases I’ve always associated with asking for help are passwords of pathos: ‘Please, sir, I want some more.’ ‘Would you mind…?’ ‘If it’s not too much trouble…’ These supplications ooze helplessness and mark the moment we turn over control to someone else. The word how is different. It’s an active term, one that bridges the gap from powerless to empowered."
I’ve always had anxiety about asking for help, especially when I need it the most. A great article with some structured advice about how to ask for help without burdening or scaring people away.
Read more here: http://www.oprah.com/spirit/Martha-Beck-Help-Mayday-SOS

"For me, this is a minor epiphany. The phrases I’ve always associated with asking for help are passwords of pathos: ‘Please, sir, I want some more.’ ‘Would you mind…?’ ‘If it’s not too much trouble…’ These supplications ooze helplessness and mark the moment we turn over control to someone else. The word how is different. It’s an active term, one that bridges the gap from powerless to empowered."

I’ve always had anxiety about asking for help, especially when I need it the most. A great article with some structured advice about how to ask for help without burdening or scaring people away.

Read more here: http://www.oprah.com/spirit/Martha-Beck-Help-Mayday-SOS

Raising a Kind Daughter

"Kindness among young girls doesn’t start on the playground or in the locker room — it starts at home. Most notably, it starts with kind mothers raising kind daughters. Our girls see how we treat our friends. They also notice how we treat their friends.

If we treat their friends as competitors, our daughters will, too. If we love their friends like we love our own children, they’re more likely to see them as sisters and part of the family.”

Kari Kubiszyn Kampakis

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/kari-kubiszyn-kampakis/raising-a-kind-daughter_b_4661700.html?utm_hp_ref=mostpopular

"It reminds me I already have more than I should." One of many favorite lines. I also really like this duo (and their sweaters)!

The original lyrics seem to contain these lines, which for some reason did not end up in the performed version of the song (and which I really like!): “Sometimes I’m hard on me / when dreams don’t come easy / I wanna look back and say / I did all that I could.”

JRodTwins cover Nashville’s “Life That’s Good”.

"It is so touching to me, after all these years alone, to see this response from people. I’m so appreciative of the offers. I should have done this years ago."
Read the rest of this heartwarming story here.

"It is so touching to me, after all these years alone, to see this response from people. I’m so appreciative of the offers. I should have done this years ago."

Read the rest of this heartwarming story here.

"I have a dream that people will view a man’s love for fatherhood for what it is instead of thinking there’s something ‘fishy’ going on…I love being a dad and I love sharing my love of fatherhood with others. [B]eing a dad is one of the few things in life I’m actually good at. Of course I’m going to be passionate about this gig. My dream is that ALL people will embrace men who embrace fatherhood instead of wondering if they have ulterior motives."
Daddy Doyin
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"I have a dream that people will view a man’s love for fatherhood for what it is instead of thinking there’s something ‘fishy’ going on…I love being a dad and I love sharing my love of fatherhood with others. [B]eing a dad is one of the few things in life I’m actually good at. Of course I’m going to be passionate about this gig. My dream is that ALL people will embrace men who embrace fatherhood instead of wondering if they have ulterior motives."

Daddy Doyin

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"You know, you can steel your heart against any kind of trouble, any kind of horror. But the simple act of kindness from a complete stranger will unstitch you." 

Chris Abani - On Humanity

What Cities Would Look Like Without Any Lights
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What Cities Would Look Like Without Any Lights

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